The Gist


Am I going to fail? You think as you scroll through social media at 3 AM and see posts from your colleagues going on vacation, getting a nice job opportunity, and so on, and you wonder when it will happen to you. You can't help but feel sorry for yourself and beat yourself up for not having a "successful life." People have different ideas about what success looks like. Because you don't have what they have, doesn't mean you're not good enough.

/ 23 April 2022

Things that should determine yourself worth:

Having Your Own Place

“Finally moving out! ” A message you’ve seen on social media in as many days makes you feel a twinge of jealousy, and you can’t help but feel a pang of jealousy too. You’d also like your own private place with a view of the metro while you sleep in your Pinterest-perfect bedroom.

However, not having your own place or continuing living at home with your parents in your 20s, 30s, or even later in life does not imply that you are a failure. It just indicates that you have different priorities and are in a different circumstance. Choose between making yourself feel horrible for the rest of your life and making the most of your circumstances. Hey, free board and lodging!

Having A Relationship

People’s significant others are yet another thing they like to show off on social networking platforms. Even though you scroll through couples in what appears to be a great relationship, you watch rom-com movies to fuel your hopes of meeting The One, you listen to corny songs, and you still haven’t found someone.

Having a bad relationship can be depressing at times (especially if you’re the fifth wheel on a stag or hen do), but it doesn’t necessarily indicate that you’ve failed in the romantic sector. Consider the following: Your single years are supposed to allow you to mature as an individual so that when you meet your other half, you can give them the best of yourself. By that time, the lengthy wait will have been justified.

Getting single does not imply that you are a failure, and being ghosted does not imply that you are a failure. They are unable to face their emotions and accept responsibility for their actions, which is otherwise known as being a decent human being.

It’s a sad feeling to sense a strong connection with someone only to discover that they didn’t feel the same way about you. You haven’t failed here, and you haven’t done anything wrong.